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Single Mom Support: Finding Your Tribe


Becoming a single mother can feel like starting a new journey on an unfamiliar road. It can be a bumpy ride, filled with unexpected twists and turns. But just like any journey, having the right support system can make all the difference.


Building a support system as a single mother is like constructing a strong foundation for a house. Just as a sturdy foundation keeps a house standing during tough weather conditions, a supportive network can help a single mother weather the challenges of raising a child alone.


I became a single mother before my daughter was even born. Right from the pregnancy days I had to navigate the uncertainty alone. There was no one to pamper me but it was only about the fear of doing it all alone.


However, it was my friends at work and a few of my childhood buddies that helped me navigate the tough times. It was their support that I could focus on future rather than crying for what happened in past. Since I had to face it alone on most days and didn't know "what to do next," I thought I should share some tricks that helped me enjoy the journey instead be stressed about "what could have happened."


In this blog, we'll explore some tips and strategies for building a strong support system as a single mother, so you can keep moving forward with confidence.


Identifying Your Needs and Goals

Identifying Your Needs and Goals is an essential step in building a strong support system as a single mother. It's important to take the time to evaluate your needs and identify your goals to ensure that the support system you create will be tailored to your unique situation.


This may involve:


1. Reflecting on your personal and professional goals,

2. Assessing your financial situation, and

3. Determining what kind of support would be most helpful for you and your family.


By taking the time to identify your needs and goals, you'll be better equipped to build a support system that can help you achieve success and thrive as a single mother.


For example, since I worked while I was pregnant and had savings in my account, I decided to leave the job (also because they didn't have the option of maternity leave). I decided to be a stay-at-home mom for around one and a half years before I joined the workforce again.


But it can depend on the kind of financial ability you have. My savings allowed me to stay back for this long. You can stay for less and start your professional journey. And this come to the next part, do you have the support system at home to take care of the baby.


For instance, when I joined back, my parents took care of the baby. But one of my knowns hired a help when she was at home to help understand the person and evaluate if the person was trustworthy to leave the child alone with her. She even installed CCTV at home once she resumed.


You can also request for child care facilities from your workplace or opt for flexible timings if they offer.


Reaching Out to Family and Friends

When you are a single mother, you might feel like you have to do everything alone. However, reaching out to family and friends can be a game-changer.


Not only do you have people to talk to and confide in, but you also have a built-in support system that can help you in many ways. From offering practical help with childcare to emotional support, your loved ones can play an important role in your life as a single mother.


Like I mentioned before, staying with my parents helped me navigate the tough times and allowed me to restart my professional life.


Finding Support through Online Communities

In today's digital age, the internet provides a wealth of resources and opportunities to connect with others in similar situations. As a single mother, you can find support through online communities dedicated to parenting, motherhood, and single parenthood.


These communities offer a safe space to share your experiences, seek advice, and offer encouragement. You can connect with other single mothers who understand the unique challenges and triumphs of raising children alone. Through online communities, you can build meaningful relationships and expand your support system beyond your immediate circle of family and friends.


For example, LinkedIn helped me connect with so many single parents. It allowed me ask questions that were bothering me and now I am helping in whatever way I can in terms of support.


Seeking Professional Support and Resources

Being a single mother is a demanding job that comes with its own set of unique challenges. As much as friends and family can be helpful, sometimes you may need the support of a professional.


Seeking professional support and resources can provide you with the knowledge and tools to navigate the difficulties of being a single mother.


From counseling to financial assistance, there are many resources available to help single mothers achieve success and provide the best possible life for themselves and their children. For instance, professional support and resources can include seeking guidance from mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors, financial advisors, career counselors, or legal advisors.


These can help you navigate turbulant times quite easily.


Balancing Self-Care and Caregiving Responsibilities

As a single mother, balancing self-care and caregiving responsibilities can be a daunting task. With so many responsibilities and demands on your time and energy, it's easy to neglect your own needs.


For instance, I was doing more than what I could every single day. I thought if I will share about issues, people will question my choices. I did this for three years. Result was nothing great. Neither I was doing good at work nor I was feeling happy being a mom. I remember I used to cry all the time saying "why me."


This impacted my mental health, emotional well-being and more importantly my relationship with my daughter. That's when I decided that I can't be everywhere all the time. So, I stopped feeling guilty. That helped me grow as an individual and a professional.


Right now, I am working as a freelancer and enjoying moments with my daughter without really combining the two together. I use a schedule for my work and rest time. I ask for help. I say no often. This helped me regain confidence in myself and my abilities.


This is why taking care of yourself is essential for your well-being, and it's also important for your ability to care for your children. Here are some practical tips for balancing self-care and caregiving responsibilities as a single mother.

  1. Prioritize Self-Care: The first step to balancing self-care and caregiving responsibilities is to prioritize your own well-being. This means making time for self-care activities that are important to you. It could be something as simple as taking a walk, reading a book, or practicing yoga. The key is to make self-care a priority and schedule it into your daily routine.

  2. Set Boundaries: As a single mother, it's easy to get overwhelmed with caregiving responsibilities. Setting boundaries can help you manage your time and energy more effectively. This means saying no to tasks or activities that don't serve your needs or goals. It also means setting limits on your availability and being clear about your expectations.

  3. Delegate Responsibilities: Asking for help and delegating responsibilities can be difficult for some single mothers. However, it's essential to recognize that you can't do everything on your own. Ask family members, friends, or trusted individuals to help you with caregiving responsibilities. This can include tasks such as picking up your children from school, cooking meals, or running errands.

  4. Practice Self-Compassion: It's easy to be hard on yourself as a single mother. However, practicing self-compassion is essential for your well-being. This means being kind and understanding to yourself, especially when things don't go as planned. It also means acknowledging your efforts and progress, even if they are small.

  5. Stay Connected: Finally, staying connected with friends, family, and support groups is essential for balancing self-care and caregiving responsibilities. Talking to others who are in similar situations can be helpful in reducing stress and providing emotional support. It's also a great way to get practical advice and tips for managing your time and energy.

Being a single mother is tough. The society expects you to behave a certain way. But that's okay. Make your own rules and stay healthy and happy.


And if you are looking for any support, reach out to me at storiesthatmatterinfo@gmail.com and I can help you reach out to the right people.

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