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Writer's pictureShikha Bhat

Free your heart by letting go


Think about a hot air balloon; it is an awe-inspiring and liberating symbol of potential, capable of soaring freely across the vast open sky. But, even the most majestic hot air balloon can't ascend if weighed down by too many sandbags. The sandbags are necessary for stability, yet when it's time to ascend, they must be released, one by one, until the balloon is light enough to ride on the wind.


I, too, was like that hot air balloon, tethered to the ground by the burdens of my past. Memories of failed relationships, lost opportunities, and missed chances were my sandbags. These burdens tugged on the corners of my heart, weighing me down with regret and remorse, preventing me from rising above and fully embracing the life that waited.


As I began to unburden myself, shedding each emotional sandbag, I found my heart growing lighter. With each released regret, each discarded disappointment, I began to rise. Freeing my heart by letting go was not just about forgetting the past, but also about giving myself permission to rise above it.


This is the story of my journey towards emotional liberation. A tale of how I learned to let go, to unburden my heart, and finally allowed myself to soar high in the sky, free and unfettered. Let me share with you how the act of letting go transformed my life, hoping it can do the same for you.


My Baggage: Confronting the Weights Holding Me Down

Like any traveler on life's journey, I too carried baggage. Not the kind filled with clothes and toiletries, but an invisible load that weighed heavily on my heart. I carried a backpack brimming with failures, disappointments, and hurts - things that seemed so integral to who I was, I couldn't imagine setting them aside.


I was raised in an environment where resilience was celebrated, and showing any sign of emotional fragility was frowned upon. It's an age-old story, isn't it? We keep our hurts and sorrows hidden in a box, only letting them out in the dark, when we're sure no one is watching.


As I grew older, these burdens accumulated. Failed relationships left scars of rejection, missed opportunities became symbols of my perceived inadequacy, and unfulfilled dreams turned into constant reminders of an unaccomplished life. I carried these burdens faithfully, believing they were an inescapable part of me, a testament to my journey.


It took a moment of intense heartache, a time when I could barely lift my heart, for me to finally confront these weights. And in confronting them, I realized how much they were holding me down, preventing me from reaching the heights I was meant to ascend to. I realized that it wasn't resilience to carry such heavy burdens - it was a form of self-punishment.


That was the moment I decided to unpack my baggage. I realized that I couldn't truly move forward without first acknowledging what was holding me back. The first step to releasing the weight was to confront it, to open my heart and honestly examine the burdens I had been carrying for far too long.


My Journey: Learning to Release and Let Go

Learning to release and let go was not an overnight process, nor was it a linear one. It was a winding path full of trials and triumphs, doubts and determinations. I learned that untying knots that had been there for years took patience, perseverance, and a healthy dose of courage.


My first challenge was to understand that releasing did not mean forgetting. I had to learn to look at my failures not as marks of shame but as stepping stones on my path to growth. Every relationship that didn't work out, every opportunity that slipped through my fingers, was a lesson that had shaped me into the person I had become.


My next step was to forgive. And let me tell you, forgiving oneself is a steep climb. But every journey starts with a single step, and my first step was to acknowledge that I was not infallible, that it was okay to have tried and failed.


I had to come to terms with the fact that no matter how carefully you tread, life is filled with missteps. For each hurt, each disappointment, I had to look into the mirror, into my own eyes, and say, "I forgive you."


As I progressed along this path, I found that the act of letting go was incredibly freeing. Each burden dropped lightened my heart a little more, made my steps a little more buoyant. I found joy in moments where I least expected it, found strength in my own resilience, and found peace in releasing the past. It was like watching the dawn after a long, dark night - the light slowly creeping in, filling the corners, and banishing the shadows.


This journey was my healing, my path to self-discovery. It was, and still is, my way of accepting that while I cannot change the past, I have the power to shape my future by choosing what I carry forward.


Letting go was not about denying my past, but about embracing the potential of my present and future.


My Liberation: Embracing the Freedom of a Lighter Heart

It’s hard to describe the feeling of liberation that comes from unburdening a heart that's been heavy for so long. It's like taking a deep, unrestricted breath after being underwater. I felt lighter, free, and astonishingly buoyant. It was an unexpected, almost foreign sensation, but it was as beautiful as it was transformative.


Releasing the weights that once held me down unlocked a sense of freedom I had never experienced before. With each discarded regret, each relinquished fear, I found new spaces opening up within me - spaces for hope, for joy, and for new dreams. It was as if I had been living in a small, confined room and suddenly, the walls fell away, revealing a vast, boundless expanse.


With this newfound freedom, I began to see life in a different light. I no longer walked with my gaze fixed on the ground, burdened by the past. I started looking forward, envisioning a future unclouded by regrets. I found myself more open to new experiences, more willing to take chances, and more capable of embracing change.


With a lighter heart, I also learned to love myself better. I started acknowledging my accomplishments, no matter how small. I celebrated my strengths and worked on my weaknesses without condemning myself. I found that I was more patient with myself, more accepting of my imperfections. In essence, I began to treat myself with the kindness and compassion I would extend to a dear friend.


This feeling of liberation, this unburdening of my heart, has been the most incredible journey of self-discovery and growth. As I stand now, unshackled from my past and embracing the present, I truly understand what it means to be free.


I've learned that the most liberating journey you can take is the one where you learn to set down your burdens and live with a heart unencumbered by regrets. And let me tell you, it's a journey worth embarking on.


Did you let go yet?

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Saniket Singh
Saniket Singh
May 31, 2023

I'm glad to hear that you were able to find liberation by standing up to societal expectations. It's a courageous step to challenge the status quo. At the same time, it's important to recognize that the journey towards liberation can be complex and different for each person.

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Saniket Singh
Saniket Singh
May 31, 2023

its quite tough for some people to be liberated specially for men due to society and surrounding

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Shikha Bhat
Shikha Bhat
May 31, 2023
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I agree. But what I have seen through my experiences society dominates until you let them. I did look into the eyes and said enough is enough and it liberated me.

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